
Most couples feel lost after the discovery or disclosure of a sexual addiction. There is so much confusion, fear, and loneliness. There are so many unanswered questions. Many couples want to try and make it work, but they just don’t know how. Neither of them even knows if it is possible.
With Comfort Christian Counseling's Intensive, you will have the benefit of receiving treatment from a couple who has been where you are and found freedom. Jeff and Ella Hutchinson are a testimony to God's ability to heal a marriage when both of the parties are willing to do the work it takes.
Prior to the Intensive
Prior to arriving at our Three-Day Intensive, we begin the process with introductory phone calls with each partner. Through this important step, we hope to establish a comfortable relationship and develop an understanding of a couple's particular background. This introductory stage is also valuable as it allows a couple to better prepare for the Intensive and the work involved.
What to Expect at the Intensive
During the Intensive, Jeff Hutchinson, CPSAS (Certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Specialist) and Ella Hutchinson, LPC, CCSAS (Certified Clinical Sexual Addiction Specialist), will dedicate three days to you and your spouse alone. You and your spouse will receive our complete attention and focus during the entire three days.
Individual and couple's counseling combined with experiential exercises will help you find healing and hope after the devastation sex addiction has brought to your marriage. We will also equip you both with a road map for navigating the path of life after sex addiction has invaded your marriage.
During the Intensive you and your spouse will receive the equivalent of over 20 hours of therapy in a non-clinical setting. Unlike many sex addiction clinicians who have an addict-centric approach to treating couples, we work from the trauma model for partners which is a partner-sensitive approach. We do our best to make sure both the addict and the partner receive the treatment and attention they need and deserve.
Issues addressed within a 3-Day Couples Intensive include:
Due to the secrecy of sex addiction, it is often hidden for years before the spouse finds out. Other couples struggle for years as one partner continues to find new evidence of pornography use or other forms of sexual acting out and the other partner continues to make unfulfilled promises to stop. This is because a sex addict cannot stop their behavior on their own.
A couple's intensive can show you the steps that must be taken to finally find freedom. Unfortunately many therapists, even those who specialize in sex addiction, too often do not see these steps as a priority. If you have not had success with other therapists, or have been trying to do this on your own for too long, we would like to offer some support.
One-Day Aftercare Program
Three months after a couple has completed an Intensive, Comfort Christian Counseling offers a One-Day Aftercare Program to reinforce what the couple learned and address areas where they are still struggling. Within this stage, we will discuss how to acheive further growth, intimacy and trust building.
Additionally, the Aftercare Program includes a follow up polygraph for the addict so that they may live a life free from secrets and maintain sexual sobriety, and provide the partner peace of mind that there are no new secrets.
Continued support and follow-up with periodic polygraph exams are offered and encouraged.
All a sex addict needs is a genuine desire to stop his behavior and willingness to reach out for help.
As the spouse of a sex addict, you cannot force your partner to get help, but if you both are motivated for treatment, anything is possible.
Our Intensive is not for every couple.
To be considered for an Intensive BOTH the husband and wife must fill out confidential brief applications.
Once both partners have applied, you will be contacted by Ella or Jeff.
Testimonial from
3-Day Couples Intensive
"The Intensive was an amazing experience. It has changed my marriage and without Jeff and Ella I am not sure my wife and I would be so connected through all the difficultly of my sex addiction. The experience of the Intensive was comfortable and professional. The Intensive was one of the hardest things I have done being a sex addict for over 15 years. However, it was also one of the best experiences I ever had as well. Both Jeff and Ella were amazing. I have tried other programs and some of the "best" counselors in the past, failing to stay sober. Jeff and Ella's approach is like nothing I have experienced before. My wife and I have been able to mend the wounds and work towards a healthy marriage, putting God first."
-K.M.